There is no end
Only beginnings
Every moment
Is a new beginning
~ M. L Adams
A Journey in Letting go
So the last week has been an intense but powerful journey, one where I’ve had to learn to let go all over again. This has taught me a few things, firstly that by our nature we can become attached to something/ someone even when we think we haven’t or don’t want to. As always this is only realised once that thing or person is gone and it seems it can happen more than once too, but our journey always teaches us when we are open to listen, as we are always growing.
So I asked what is the lesson here in this, at this time, and I have found it to be this beauty in surrender. When we surrender to the pain, we open up to the bliss always, sometimes sooner than others, but always. It still even though I have been there before seemed counter-intuitive to let go as my past default pattern was to fight or resist for what is important to me, however this was before I had begun to deeply understand how we are all connected and that the core of this old belief was driven by the fear of separation.
Ekhart Tolle states that ‘All anxiety is based on the illusion of separateness’ and I’ve come to really understand this and believe this to be true. Everything in our lives in terms of belief and meaning, begins within us and is created or re-created there, therefore all we see and believe exists here. Nothing is ever lost in the deepest sense it only changes, but as human beings we will naturally desire and can subsequently become attached. However it is also true that it is in the holding on or resisting that suffering can occur.
Whatever fear or pain comes up, by letting it be, not resisting and then letting go, then peace and love are always found. The rest is just layers of attachment in what we come to think is essential for our happiness, where ultimately they are not as our happiness is always from within.
Time and separation are an illusion. By holding on or attaching through limiting fears or beliefs we can unknowingly cut ourselves off from all that is here and all that is really possible and potentially also limit those who we love. A new way to look at it is; instead of holding on, we can be in a state of always surrendering or letting go in each moment, therefore being one with each moment as it is and allowing all to be.
We are always learning and growing and I’m looking forward to realising an existence where I am letting go to each moment more consistently, in the sense of always being here with what, where and who I’m with and am. Truly then allowing a life of possibility for myself and all who I’m here with. Exciting times 🙂
Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly ~ Proverb
Surrender
Whenever you long to move beyond, to somewhere else where you are not, then surrender, to let-go is the path.
Surrender whenever you want to move beyond yourself, surrender is the way – either in love or in prayer.
~ Osho ~
Soul tears
Never has my soul hurt like this before,
Never have I felt such a pain from my core
My soul somehow knows it is time to let go,
Yet it makes it no easier;
Will I feel freer
As my tears are endlessly flowing,
Not knowing,
How will I never ever know you anymore
~ M.L Adams
In your light
In your light I learn how to love,
In your beauty, how to make poems
You dance inside my chest where no-one sees you, but sometimes I do,
and that sight becomes this art
~ Rumi ~
Spreading wings
Some things are far better apart,
Like the diamonds that are stars
Shining beautifully there on their own,
In the oneness of existence that’s here and all around
Some things can be hard to let go of,
Yet until you do, you can never be fully grown
All that’s held back from joining you together,
Will be free once more from this point right here
The freedom that comes in your oneness, is found even though your apart or near,
You do not not need him anymore
And you know this,
It’s time to let go; simply spread your wings
~ M. L Adams
Letting go of old beliefs
So often we can be held back and not understand why, we may be aiming for goals and dreams and something just keeps getting in the way or the same situation keeps re-occurring.
If you understand what I’m talking about here then you’ll understand equally how annoying it can be, especially when you seem to be doing all the right thing but something just keeps coming up to get in your way.
Just what is it that causes this?
The answer to this is often quiet simple, it is old worn out limiting beliefs that are stopping us from achieving our goal.
And why?
Well it is most often caused by some event that happened in the past where we have attached a story and subsequent meaning to it, which has then becomes a belief. This belief can either then empower us or limit us and for some time a belief usually will always serve us in some way, often as a form of protection. What then happens is that we continue with this underlying belief even if it no longer serves us, but we hold it to be true, because based on that experience and our perception we really believe it is.
The only thing is now this old worn out belief not only limits us but also affects our perception in many areas of our life and also in our relations with others. In any area we feel limited in some way or where there is recurring issues this is often the case.
After doing The Landmark forum a couple of weekends ago I came to realise some of my own disempowering old beliefs and have decided it’s definitely time to let them go. Most of all is that in the context of today these beliefs are quiet silly and not necessary for me anymore. It is only because they were developed from a young age, that this was how I perceived the world then and then unknowingly held on to it subsequently limiting areas of my life that I’ve been wanting to develop. When I realised this it was super empowering but I also found it humorous how I’d held on to some limiting belief patterns for so long (better to laugh than cry :).
To be held back from something I decided so long ago seems so absurd but we all are doing and have done this for a large majority of our time. We then effectively keep repeating our past in to our future and therefore limiting ourselves and hence why we also get these recurring situations even if we are focusing on something different, the belief will always win somehow.
When we discover our false beliefs and decide to let go of them we can create a whole new possibility rather than repeating old patterns or limitations that are no longer serving us. Its definitely one I’d recommend considering. What old beliefs could be holding you back from your new life of possibility?
Thoughts, words and deeds
The thought manifests as the word,
The word manifests as the deed
The deed develops in to habit;
And habit hardens in to character
So watch the thought and it’s ways with care
~ Buddha ~
Beauty and kindness
‘There’s so much beauty and kindness in the world,
Let’s focus on this,
Let’s be more of this,
Then we are sure to see more of it’ ❤
Thank you to all of you beautiful souls, keep being the change ❤
Notes from Dr John de Martini
After seeing Dr John de Martini at a seminar a couple of weeks ago, I was so inspired by him that I wanted to share my experience with you all. I hope you can take some inspiration from this too.
Dr John de Martini believes that everyone can live an inspired vision and he dedicated his life to discovering how and sharing this with the world.
These are some of the most standout points from his talk that I observed;
Most of all what matters is that you have a dream, something many of us may have heard before.
So how do we know we are not only following our dream but can also achieve it?
Our value system
Our value system determines our destiny and our hierarchy of values determines everything we do and how unique we are.
So how do we know these?
Our highest values are that which we are pulled to do. That we do not need to be motivated for, we just want to do them because we value them so highly. So our hierarchy of values therefore dictate our destiny.
Your highest of values will spontaneously be inspired from within and will lead everything you do. They are of intrinsic value, therefore you will always achieve them.
These can be discovered from observing what you are drawn to in your current lifestyle without needing to be motivated to do them in anyway.
If you need to be reminded or motivated to so something it’s because it’s low on your values.
When it comes to relationships, our values are also of great importance as John de Martini says; Nobody is in fact committed to us only to fulfilling their highest values. So when we help someone achieve their highest values they will automatically enjoy being with us.
My favourite quote of all John de Martini said was this;
‘The greatest difference you can ever make is being the authentic you.’
I couldn’t agree more with this, if we are trying to be anything we are not then we are kidding ourselves and making ourselves unhappy. This then also affects those around us.
Your highest value is where your empowered and your lowest value is where your most disempowered. In anytime you do lower value things you are effectively devaluing yourself, so always aim to reduce these.
Top take 🙂
*Know your highest values and fill your life with these*
John then talked about how he’d discovered the term telos. Which he explained as a central part within our minds that’s driving us towards our highest value- always having your chief aim or destiny in mind.
In effect it’s like we are individually preset to follow a certain destiny and that’s why we are driven toward certain things and not others.
In any case to punish yourself by doing that which you really dislike doing, this makes no sense at all, especially when there are other options and opportunities available.
The study of meaning and purpose
Your purpose is an expression of your highest value and your life demonstrates your highest values when you observe where you spend most time. In that you will always have and make time for the things that are most important to you.
Knowing yourself and your highest values is what’s most important to drive you forward. You will automatically have a selected biased attention for those things that fulfill your telos.
Anything you see that supports your telos acts a guide towards it.
Anything against it guides you away from it, including through illness.
When you set a goal aligned with your highest values you spontaneously align yourself to success- this awakens your inner leader and it is natural to spiritually and energetically expand and move forward when in this state.
When you set all goals and intentions to align with your highest value and purpose- this awakens your higher self. We are rewarded when we are authentic.
When we set goals low on our value system, we will be uninspired unmotivated and become a follower rather than a leader.
There is however never a need to get rid of any part of yourself, only to love yourself. Negative responses are simply feed back to move away and back towards that which will lead to your higher purpose and highest values. When your goals are aligned with your highest values then automatically positive responses will arise. The end in mind (telos) awakens the telos in the brain.
When we live by lower values then this awakens the lower part of the brain. Living from here we then function on pain and pleasure- or simply instinct and survival.
When living by our higher values we will see even challenges as positive, because everything will become a part of our cause. Everything then supports yourself on the way, you will be inspired by mission and you won’t need motivation, all will be a part of your goal.
When living by your lower values you will only want to escape. Addictive and compulsive behaviour is also a symptom of following lower values and living an uninspired life- we should not need to be motivated.
When were aligned with our mission we are inspired, self governed and awakened. Our inner voice will be stronger than anything- were then living our inspired destiny.
In doing what you love and living by your telos you will have resilience, high health and be supported by universal energy. You are pulled by vision , supported no matter what and this will magnetise people because of your being authentic.
Other Main Points
– We need both support and challenge towards achieving our goals, this is essential.
– Anytime we minimise ourselves we lose our genius and our leader.
– Anytime were out of balance from our own values, we begin depreciating ourself and our mission.
– Leaders look for challenges that inspire them.
– Subordination to outer authority is the one thing that stops us achieving our ultimate purpose.
– Empower your own purpose and values and support those of others. Anything other than this will cause us to be out of balance.
– Link everything to your highest purpose – (always asking; how does this link to my highest value and purpose?)
Gain momentum towards your highest purpose by setting continuous goals in line with your values.
To leave an astronomical legacy we need to live an astronomical life in line with our own authenticity and purpose.
– Say yes to everything that inspires you and no to all else- aim to get to the point where you can delegate all else.
– Feel and know your destiny to serve masses and it is then you will achieve masses of wealth.
– If you don’t fill up your life with inspired actions that fulfill you, your life will instead get filled up with distractions from all other areas.
I hope you find some these points as helpful and inspiring. Please let me know your thoughts.
To discover more also check out this link http://www.willetheridge.com/demartini-method/
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